Wait, hear me out

I woke up yesterday morning feeling downcast

This is unusual

I have been doing the work

I have been healing myself

I even started yoga

So what was I getting wrong?

Are my standards too high?

No, my therapist confirmed that I needed to have pretty firm standards, boundaries, and deal breakers

These will serve as guidelines to help me navigate all my relationships with ease

What I did not know is that I also needed to grow thick skin to navigate uncertainty, maybe not with ease

I did not know that I needed to also set boundaries with myself

So in this process of increasing the quality of my life, when I experience challenges, I don’t beat myself up for not having it all figured out

Another angle I have come to realize is that our seemingly high standards comes from our inner mum…

As far as she was concerned, I needed to look perfect, act perfect, be perfect, have lots of money, travel every month, own several businesses, own at least one property, have a loving husband…

She is so time conscious and fixated on the end goal that she does not stop to smell her flowers, to bask in the breeze, to count her blessings

If you can relate, know that you are not alone.

It takes incredible work and self love to maintain that balance between reaching for the stars and accepting what already is

Daily habits might seem mundane and boring, but not all acts of self care requires doing something grand

There is power in simply existing in the moment as we wait for the next grand step

Love and light ✨